Part of the process [of rebirth] is the growth of a new relationship with the dead…that veritable ami mort Saint-Exupéry speaks of. Like all gestation, it is a slow, dark, wordless process. While it is taking place one is painfully vulnerable. One must guard and protect the new life growing within—like a child. —ANNE MORROW LINDBERGH
It is over shaky ground—this journey between the relationship we had when the person was alive and the relationship we come to have with the dead. We don’t know what to expect, don’t even know what we’re looking for. Are we fooling ourselves, conjuring up the possibility that we can have a relationship with someone who’s died? Perhaps it is a little like a first-time parent who, anxious that something may go wrong, has to keep going back and checking on the baby. Is the baby all right? Still breathing? Still peacefully sleeping? After a while the parent becomes more confident. The baby really is there, and safe, but as with other miracles, this miracle of birth takes getting used to. Perhaps in like manner comes the slowly dawning confidence that in the mystery of living, it is possible to have an ongoing relationship with the dead. — Martha Hickman — Healing After Loss — Daily Meditations for Working Through Grief
Love never dies. I continue to love Amy and continue to feel her love returned. Our bond is eternal. Many may fear “believing” that our loved ones are capable of sending us signs. I admit embracing this concept is all new to me too. Let me be clear though that I am not sharing my belief in the possibilities to sway anyone in either direction nor do I welcome any chirps of wisdom from the non-believers. I respect your right to believe or not to believe. That being said, these are my own personal thoughts. I know God and the universe assist in orchestrating the connection gifts and signs I receive at times. Some times those beautiful gifts come from the most unexpected places. Coincidence? Not in my world. But if you sleep better concluding that the grief has me on a delusional path, go for it.
If only embracing my daughter in spirit would be enough to sustain me until we truly meet again …
Always remembering Amy and grateful for communications on both sides of the very thin veil.